Indeed, if you are driven by troilism it is probably quite important that you divulge this quite early on in your relationship with another person.
Assuming that your current partner is willing to let another person join the two of you in the bedroom you will need to be very careful in who you select.
If you are in a long term relationship then you are effectively letting that person within the sanctity of your bond.
For some letting a third person enter their sex lives was the best thing they ever did.
Some women for example have been able to experience simultaneous double penetration from two men and found it very liberating and enjoyable.
In some examples there have been husbands who have allowed their wives to have sex with another man while they predominantly just observed. In these conditions again, there have been those that have found it enjoyable and highly stimulating.
Some adults who engage in threesomes also like to capture the experience on video and all parties are liable to find it highly erotic when they watch the footage back at a later time while using massive silicone dongs or other platinum silicone dildos.
If you are recording your sex sessions, again it is imperative that you trust all parties involved. In this day and age there is the much publicised possibility of revenge porn. In this phenomenon an aggrieved sexual partner takes the sensitive footage of you having sex and posts it publicly on the internet where it could potentially be seen by anyone.
Furthermore, we have even sadly heard of events whereby sexual videos capturing events have been used a means of leverage or blackmail over another person – so be careful who is filming you!
Under some circumstances we have heard that the 3rd person who is invited into the sex session ends up secretly pairing up with one of the other members of the original couple behind the other’s back!
Threesomes have the potential for an incredible sexual experience and there are subsequently many advocates for them. However for as many relationships which have benefited from the introduction of another person, there have been up to twice as many which have been negatively effected. Jealousy is one of the main things which crops up when a 3rd person is involved.
It may be that the new person proves to be better at pleasing your sex toy loving partner than you are. Perhaps they are more attractive. While consenting adult toy lovers are free to do what they want under these circumstances, and while undoubtedly there are those that are staunch supporters, more often than not people get hurt and the reality of the fantasy is not all it was cracked up to be.
Far better we think that you stick to fantasizing alone or perhaps you and your partner can role play at being ‘strangers ‘– at least that way you are less likely to damage your relationship irreparably.
For some the idea of a threesome is not so much as a lifestyle or fetish but more of a desire upon their bucket list of things to achieve in life. It may be therefore that some have a threesome and never desire to repeat. Other adult toy lovers however, may be hooked on it for the rest of their life and possibly never be able to settle down with one person.