Updated: Jan 8, 2020

Many adults have grown up believing that self pleasure is a sign of weakness. It may be that they have been told by their church, parents or school that masturbation is wrong and immoral or that they must save themselves for when they are married!

Fortunately, we have come a long way in regard to such uptight attitudes. A far greater proportion of adults now feel freedom to masturbate if that is what they wish to do. It may be that they do so in secret and tell no-one, or they may be more open about their play with adult toys or sex toys.

It is my opinion, that men, being more sexually driven than women, are liable to have more likely self pleasured, regardless of what they were told to do! Resisting sexual pleasure when a person is frustrated requires an exceptional amount of discipline.

I think it is more likely that the relaxation of attitudes towards self pleasure are more likely to have benefitted women. It may be that women were always curious to masturbate but for whatever reason felt that it was the wrong thing to do and as a consequence supressed the urge.

Whether we like it or not, or whether we want to accept it or not, we are only human. We have hormones raging around our bodies and we are biologically programmed to want sex. Other motivations of the body include the need to sleep, eat, drink and excrete bodily waste. Over-riding a primal drive is a tough ask.

If we are fortunate enough to have a sexual partner then we are liable to be able to have regular sexual satisfaction. But what if we are single or our partner is away. Are we to grin and bear it despite our pent up sexual feelings?

I believe we have a right to pleasure our own bodies if we choose to do so. I do not think it is something we need to be ashamed of or something for which we can be critisised or chastised for.

Some people who are in relationships find it very difficult explaining to their partner that they have a need or desire to masturbate. It may well be that the other partner does not need to masturbate or perhaps they have less of a libido so the idea of sex toys or large silicone dongs are quite foreign.

Some partners feel hurt, angry or confused if their find out their other half self pleasures. It may be that they feel that if their partner does this then it means they are not pleasing them enough. Sometimes feelings of insecurity and inadequacy are liable to arise.

If a person is in a controlling relationship, it may be that their partner enforces a no self pleasure ban upon them. It is my opinion that no-one has the right to exert such control over you. Unless of course you wish to relinquish this power as you are engaged in a BDSM role play relationship.

If your partner is uncomfortable with you masturbating then this is something which would be helpful if the two of you can sit down and discuss possibly with a counsellor.

Sometimes masturbation is a healthy and positive release. Sometimes our partners do not satisfy us - this is not to say we do not love or care for them. Relaxed attitudes towards self pleasure is a good thing - we do not need to be imprisoned from experiencing a basic human right.

Masturbation for men and women can be very helpful for mental health and wellbeing which is why their is such an impetus on sexual aids such as platinum silicone dongs or large silicone dildos or sex machines such as Sybian for women.

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Updated: Jan 8, 2020

As we approach the end of 2019 we are fortunate to live in a time where attitudes towards sexuality and expression of sex are a lot more liberated and relaxed than ever before. In this article we are going to be talking a little bit about the use of sex toys by men and women and how attitudes to their use has changed.

It is true that there has been evidence found of sex toys potentially being used by even very early man! Sex is such a primal, basic instinct that it is of no great surprise that even our earliest ancestors felt the need to pleasure themselves or others with their own makeshift adult toys.

Whether the use of improvised sex toys by our ancestors was approved of or frowned upon, is something we cannot comment on. However, we do know that over the course of the last 100 years attitudes have changed greatly.

Vibrators were developed in the late 19th Century and originally used as treatment offered by the medical professionals of the time to treat 'hysterical' women. The premise was that if these women achieved sexual release in the form of orgasm via vibrational stimulation, then they would be cured of each and every ailment they were currently afflicted by.

Throughout the 20th century vibrators continued to be used as a medical aid for women but soon became more mainstream in their use. By the middle of the century it was infact quite common place for women to own a form of body massager which they may use to achieve a clitoral orgasm.

Attitudes towards sex were much more relaxed in the years after the 2nd World War in part due to the flower power/free love era of the 1960's and this would have been an era of more sexual experimentation with adult toys or sex toys.

Sex toys have become increasingly sophisticated over the last 50 years. More realistic materials for both men and women to use have made them increasingly more authentic and closer to the real thing - e.g. male masturbators for men which resemble the vaginal cavity.

Throughout the 20th century there was a gradual increase in the ways in which men and women acted and spoke about their sexuality and their desires to self pleasure.

Attitudes to masturbation is actually quite an interesting topic to discuss. A lot of opinions where self pleasure was frowned upon, were liable to have been formed as a consequence of religious ideas.

Chastity belts were a concept dreamt up by the church to prevent women from having sex - presumably outside of marriage. They would also have prevented masturbation indulgencies too - even though large silicone dongs and massive silicone dildos had yet to be invented!

Young adult men were also fitted with makeshift gadgets designed to prevent them from self pleasure - one such item would sound a bell warning parents that their son was touching themselves so they could intervene and no doubt offer an exhaustive lecture of the dangers of sin.

Religion has been and to some degree still is, one of the main forces which has shaped the ways in which people view self pleasure. Many religions state that masturbation is unholy, that it is the path to evil. One such anecdote stated that when a woman is touching her clitoris she is infact ringing the devils doorbell!

These notions sound quite laughable but they have no doubt scared and controlled many sexually frustrated adults in the past.

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Updated: Jan 9, 2020

At John Thomas Toys we know that the quality of our sex toys, such as large silicone dongs and huge silicone dildos is second to none. Having had over 15 years experience in the adult toy industry it is not difficult to differentiate between the quality of different products.

Since our launch this year, we have already been inundated with satisfied customers wishing to re-order or simply pass on their feedback. A common way in which sex toy companies may gain a good reputation in the industry is by inviting customers to leave an appraisal of the goods and services received via Trust Pilot. We actively encourage our customers to do just this and would love to hear your thoughts.

Trustpilot is a very respected and well known independent consumer review website where reviews posted by users are verified and checked by a thorough compliance team to ensure they are all genuine comments. Therefore they will give you an excellent appraisal of an online company’s performance in regard to how they treat their customers for example.

In the highly unlikely event that you had an issue with your adult toy, we aim to act swiftly to resolve it so you are happy with the outcome and will continue to purchase from us and recommend us to friends - because word of mouth is often the best means for a company to succeed.

When customers purchase a platinum silicone dong or large silicone dildo from us they have the opportunity to leave their feedback and this can be based upon any aspect of their buying process with John Thomas Toys such as choosing their sex toy, paying for goods, delivery, aftercare etc.

We actively encourage customers to leave their feedback to our site because as it continues to grow it will provide a means for new customers to learn from the experiences of others. If you so desire, you may even review your customer experience with us on you tube and then add the link to the feedback options.

Another way in which John Thomas Toys actively encourages reviews of our quality platinum silicone dongs, dildos, butt plugs and anal stretchers, is via independent sex toy reviewers.

Recently we sent some of our products to Joanne's Reviews and you can view and subscribe to her channel here:

We are always looking for new reviewers for our sex toys and adult toys so if this is something you like to do and have a decent following then please do not hesitate to get in touch with us!

With our reviewers, we hope they will provide an honest and unbiased appraisal of our platinum silicone dongs and other sex toys. John Thomas Toys do use the finest medical grade platinum silicone in conjunction with an effective copper molding technique. We are proud of our original and innovative designs and hope that you will agree that many of our adult toys certainly do have the ‘wow’ factor.

Aside from the eye catching look of our sex toys, we do like to emphasise that our adult toys are all phthalate free, body safe and hypoallergenic. Furthermore, being non-porous and stain resistant they make for an excellent long term investment – certainly compared to some of the cheaper alternatives which will simply not last and end up costing you more money in the long run when you have to keep replacing them as they get torn, smelly, discoloured or dare we say moldy! No such concern with our sex toys, simply place in boiling water in between uses – easy as that.

When we receive reviews we obviously want customers to share our passion and enthusiasm for our sex toy design, in addition we strive to impress in the way we deal with our customers. Whether this is from their initial inquiry online, or over the phone we aim to demonstrate a desire to go the extra mile and give great service and advice.

Another aspect of reviewing which we want to emphasise, is how well packaged your goods will be and also how discreetly they will arrive. These are all important considerations for any would-be customer.

A final thought - often referred to as the moment of truth, the moment when, on those rare occasions, there is a customer complaint or other issue. This is when the customer is able to see how much the company cares about their custom. John Thomas Toys strive to excel in this area too. We want to resolve any issues and reinforce the value of our customers through our actions and words.

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